Goals, Renegotiated Agreements, and Ho‘omau

Over at blog Synergy, Phil Gerbyshak started a conversation about doing a mid-year check on our goals. From all blog-evident appearances I’ve been pretty quiet about it up to now, but if only you could hear the voices in my head” they’ve been pretty relentless in taunting me, asking,

“…and what about you? Exactly where is our ‘ohana in business, and what’s the state of your managing with aloha?”

I’ve gotten an incredible amount of work done over the last six months, and I feel very good about it; you might recall that I’d posted our Talking Story recap of the year-to-date back on June 1st when we decided to break for some play with Le‘ale‘a. My business with SLC has grown by leaps and bounds, and we are blessed with the most terrific customers. On the home front, my family is thriving, and it is hard to imagine things could be much better.

However, honest reality check? The biggie goals are the ones which elude me.

Primarily, they revolve around the next chapter for the MWA evolution… audio book and podcasts, completion on a good half-dozen e-books and my second hard-cover book, and launching a pilot for an un-tested idea on what I believe could be a pretty innovative new coaching model. And there is always that half-written blog post, biz article and column which never seems to make it out of drafts; it’s gone from one to a handful, to a dozen pages full.

Ironically, I feel like I don’t have a single complaint about not making progress on these things, because the time fillers which I’ve said yes to instead, have been so incredibly satisfying and rewarding to see completed. What they all have in common, is that MWA is working for people, and working in ways they feel make significant differences for them, both in managing, and in living with aloha.

Still, I suspect I am being too easy on myself. There have been flops, three of them in particular. The first was that I truly wanted to bring an intern or two into the SLC fold this summer, and it’s not going to happen. The second has to do with MWA distribution in another international channel; I just haven’t focused on it.

Third, though I prefer to think of it as a quasi-flop, is that the MWA Jumpstart program fizzled out after its first few months of excitement. I knew it was a wildly hopeful stretch, for it was an experiment in self-paced, self-coaching, and my everyday work as a coach continually illustrates how coaching works because of regularly-scheduled conversations; people need the schedule structure and personal support. And frankly, they need the nagging —uh, I mean the gentle prodding and encouragement.

So stay tuned: I am taking Phil’s advice, and gathering all of you who so generously give me the gift of your attention here, into my accountability circle;

1. I’ve got to renegotiate some agreements with myself, and my own level of commitment, deciding on how to proceed with my first two ‘flops.’

2. www.managingwithaloha.com will change in format soon. I’m not sure how, and I need to work on the details of the goal, but Managing with Aloha is hopping vibrantly and dynamically offline, and the same needs to somehow happen there at the site online. If you have any ideas, please let me hear them!

3. I’ve spent a LOT of time lately thinking about the connectedness, health and well-being of the Ho‘ohana Community. There are actually at least three sub-communities within the Ho‘ohana Community, but up to now I’ve lumped you all together, and in a way, that doesn’t fall in alignment with all the strengths-management I talk so much about, where you value the differences of who people uniquely are, with better focus on their unique desires.

Where does Ho‘omau come in? Ah, one of my favorite Hawaiian values. Think persistence, perseverance, tenacity, resilience, fortitude, conviction, determination, dedication… you get the idea. Giving up is not an option.

I think goals are inclined to be moving targets, and that there’s nothing wrong with going with the flow, and making redirections as you need to. However you don’t stop. You may break stride just to be sure you’re thoughtful about things rather than doing the bull-in-a-china-shop tactic, or wasting a lot of time and energy in rambling trial and error. But it is a temporary break in stride, you don’t languish. With Ho‘omau, we cause the good in our lives to last, and we continually work on the capacity we know we have with an abundance mentality.

That’s just what I intend to do.

Mahalo nui for being here with me; having you as my accountability circle does help, just like Phil says.

Context from the archives:
From January, 2006: Ho‘omau: Cause the good to last.

From June, 2006: Our June Ho‘ohana: Le‘ale‘a – Let’s Play!


  1. says

    ahhh Rosa, those voices in our head… interesting what they say when we take the time to really listen, isnt it?
    I feel very challenged by this post! By being so open and honest about where you are, and sharing the things that havent happened as well as those that have, you’ve waved a flag in front of the rest of us, and called us on our own goals and accountability (in the nicest possible way, of course :)
    The voices in my head have been well and truly stirred up – thanks for the nudge.

  2. says

    Well Karen, I must give Phil the credit for starting the nudging, for I too can hesitate to be open and honest about what I don’t achieve.
    Phil is right about the effectiveness of using an Accountability Circle though; while it may not always be that obvious, I will sometimes pick my monthly ho’ohana themes for our Talking Story discussions because they are the things I am aware I need to work on most myself. The one that really comes to mind for me was when we talked about the “Art of the Sale” early last year.
    This community has the wonderful effect of stirring me to action with certain things: there is absolutely no doubt about that!