Our 2nd Annual Love Affair with Books

Ho‘owaiwai is a Hawaiian word which means,
"To enrich."

This is what the power of the written word has been for me, and for many in our Ho‘ohana Community. Thus today, we celebrate our incredible richness once more in our 2nd Annual Love Affair with Books.

We share so much more than our recommendations for certain titles; we share our hunger for knowledge, our thirst for the revelations of experiences shared in the non-fiction genre, and our optimism for the new learning that reading is certain to inspire in us. We revel in the possibilities they present, knowing those possibilities can be ours.

These in themselves provide vast, deep abundance. When you read the book reviews which follow, I am sure you will delight in their variety; there are titles you will recognize, yet I am quite sure there will be others you do not. There is a find here for everyone. As I did, you will gain renewed respect for those we are so blessed to be in the company of in this community; you will be filled with a very keen sense of appreciation. I felt very humbled to have the honor of putting this compilation together for you.

However, there is more kaona (hidden meaning, or connectivity) in the Ho‘owaiwai of books which I’d like to share with you if I may, before I do present those reviews.

There is a very wise gentleman in our Ho‘ohana Community who has been
mentoring me in the concept of added value ever since I had the extraordinary
good fortune to meet him.

Bringing our values to central importance in our lives and our work is the essence of the coaching in my own book, Managing with Aloha, Bringing Hawaii’s Universal Values to the Art of Business. I have done extensive research on values. However, I would discover I still had to learn more. You see, it would be a full year after I completed the writing of my book that I would meet David Rothacker.

David would soon become mentor and I would be the student; we have had many conversations about adding value to every life’s lesson, so that Ho‘owaiwai, our lives continue to be enriched as a result of what we have given to others. David has taught me to continually ask myself,

“How can I add even more value?”

2005 was a very good year for my business, Say Leadership Coaching. Good is always worth celebrating; very good means it is time to give back in a couple of different ways. For instance, it is time for added value to our Love Affair with Books, just as David has taught me so well.

So yesterday, I put my order together for a copy of each one of these books which are presented for you in the reviews which follow. I will be printing a copy of each review and enclosing them in the books with special bookplates which say,

With aloha from the Ho‘ohana Community

I’ll be adding a few copies of Managing with Aloha and It’s Not What You Say ” It’s What You Do for a total of 32 books purchased for a very special group. They will be our surprise gift to the library of the Hogan Entrepreneurs at Chaminade University when I next present an MWA Workshop for their class in April. You had met them last year in this post. Kept within this library, the books will also be made available for the students of Chaminade’s MBA program. Every student will receive a booklet containing printed copies of all the reviews, produced by my publishing company, Ho‘ohana Publishing.

These students represent our future hope for business, and these books can inspire and mentor them not only in the richness of their own pages, but with the aloha of the words added by our community.

Update: Here is a recent article written in The Honolulu Advertiser, further illustrating why I am so encouraged by the Hogan Entrepreneurial program: Chaminade Students help homeless folks find jobs.

To all who participated in this year’s Love Affair with Books, thank you for your magnificent choices.

Mahalo David, for your mentorship.

Now on to those reviews! Get ready to stock your own shelves … Last year we started with nine Reviews, this year there were twenty! Welcome to our

2nd Annual Talking Story Love Affair with Books:

From David Zinger at Zinger on Strength-Based Leadership, Only 50 ways to lose your lover but over 150 ways to encourage the heart

"Encouraging the Heart provides an excellent guide on the art of recognizing and appreciating others in the workplace. Kouzes and Posner outline 7 essentials in encouraging the heart: (1) set clear standards; (2) expect the best; (3) pay attention; (4) personalize recognition; (5) tell the story; (6) celebrate together, and; (7) set the example.

Read more, about Encouraging the Heart: A Leader’s Guide to Rewarding and Recognizing Others by James Kouzes and Barry Posner

From Tim Milburn at studentl.inc., Run To Win – A Book Review

"Donald T. Phillips has taught me a few things about leadership.  He showed me the unique leadership abilities of Abraham Lincoln.  He demonstrated the necessary leadership of the United States’ Founding Fathers.  He summarized the amazing leadership influence of Martin Luther King, Jr.
And now, he’s introduced me to the behind-the-scenes leadership characteristics of Vince Lombardi.
Read more, about Run To Win: Vince Lombardi on Coaching and Leadership by Donald T. Phillips

From Simon Young at Leadership, Book Reviews: Explorers Eye, The Map Book & Remarkable Maps
[Simon does three books in one post. This is a snippet about one of them.]

"As Michael Palin laments in the introduction to The Explorer’s Eye : First-Hand Accounts of Adventure and Exploration, all the good unexplored places are gone. Of course, there’s space and there are the deepest recesses of the ocean. But those aren’t places you’re likely to go with just a compass and a flask of whisky. And yet there’s still something in mankind – particularly the men of mankind – that wants to go boldly where no one has gone before. Hence the reason I watch three episodes in a row of Star Trek in my pyjamas and seriously imagine I could command a starship, while the dishes remain undone.
Read more, about The Explorer’s Eye: First-Hand Accounts of Adventure and Exploration edited by Fergus Fleming and Annabel Merullo

From Dwayne Melancon at Genuine Curiosity, Book Review: Mastery

"This one now goes on my "permanent record" of books to recommend to others … The essence of this book: On the road to Mastery, there are many plateaus where you may become frustrated because you aren’t getting any better. True Masters learn to savor the plateaus because they understand that they are building character and feeding dormant skills that will blossom later.
Read more about Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George Leonard

From Adrian Savage at Slow Leadership, Paying Attention

"In her marvelous book, Patricia Ryan Madson devotes a chapter to paying attention. Here’s part of what she says:

“Life is attention, and what we are attending to determines to a great extent how we experience the world. We are usually focused on ourselves — our problems, desires, fears. We move through life half awake and ruminating, living in our heads — thinking, planning, worrying, imagining. The detail of each day takes place in front of us, moment by precious moment. How much are we missing? Almost everything.”
Read more, about Improv Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up by Patricia Ryan Madson

From Dennis Kennedy at DennisKennedy.com, Beyond Bullet Points – Way Beyond Anything Else You’ll Read About How to Use PowerPoint Effectively

"Beyond Bullet Points emphasizes some of the most important things I’ve learned while presenting over the years (take your audience from point A to point B, understand what your audience wants to learn, keep the focus on your message, not your slides, and the like), but it also sets out a disciplined system that makes it highly likely that you will achieve these goals …. There are so many great lessons in this book that is difficult to highlight just a few.
Read more, about Beyond Bullet Points: Using Microsoft PowerPoint to Create Presentations That Inform, Motivate, and Inspire by Cliff Atkinson

From John Richardson at Success Begins Today, in a post called, 5 Year Personal Development Plan

"I am currently reading a simple but profound little book … When most people think about “success” the subject of “delayed gratification” rarely comes up yet as Joachim points out in Don’t Eat the Marshmallow Yet! it may be the single most important decision you can make on your life journey. The decision to say “I pass” so we can say “I won” is significant … As Joachim puts is so succinctly in his book; Successful people are willing to do things that unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.
Read more, about Don’t Eat the Marshmallow … Yet! The Secret to Sweet Success in Work and Life by Joachim de Posada

From Lisa Haneberg at Management Craft, Love and Management – Lovemarks Revisited All This Week

"I am a hopeless romantic, I admit it. So it tickles me to see that LOVE is at the core of many of our newest and freshest perspectives on management and business. I have been rereading Lovemarks: The Future Beyond Brands, for a project. The first time I read it, I loved it, but I did not see that it was a management book in addition to a marketing book. Kevin Roberts has written a great book about leadership, management, and maximizing performance – even if he wasn’t trying.
Read more, about Lovemarks: The Future Beyond Brands by Kevin Roberts

From Dave Rothacker at Rothacker Reviews, A Whole New Mind

"A Whole New Mind is not the pathway your father took to his
present day corporate perch.  Time and change have blown away the twigs that
once gave the nest strength.  He hopes retirement will save him before the
nest is shred by the wind.  Your perch will not be built upon the weak twigs
of corporate America.  Instead, the powers of your right brain will forge a
Whole New Mind, creating perches of change, flexibility and adaptability. 
Sure, your nest will erode.  But that nest will be one you left years ago.
Read more, about A Whole New Mind, Moving from the Information Age to the Conceptual Age by Daniel Pink

From George Ambler at The Practice of Leadership, Book Review: Execution

"The history of business is littered with organisations with excellent strategies, which failed due to poor execution. The greatest strategy does not mean a thing, without the ability to execute it! This is where [this] book can help. It’s an "in your face" book, describing the discipline needed to get things done in large corporations, [and, it] is targeted at those practicing leadership at the business unit and organisational levels. The book refers to execution as "the gap between what a company’s leaders want to achieve and the ability of their organizations to deliver it".
Read more, about Execution: The Discipline of Getting Things Done by Larry Bossidy and Ram Charan

From Phil Gerbyshak at Make It Great!, Loving Likeability

"I have come to understand the power of likeability, and realize that being able to be liked is a key to making it great. I’ve personally seen this knowledge change my life, and never been able to put a name to it. … Tim’s message of authentic likeability is a great one. If people like you, they’re willing to help you, and if they are willing to help you, you can be successful. The MORE they like you (Tim calls this a higher L factor), the MORE they’re willing to help you. Simple concept, right?
Read more, about The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor & Achieve Your Life’s Dreams by Tim Sanders

From Bren Connelly at Slacker Manager, Book review: Career Intensity

"This book reminds me of airplane fuel. Back in my undergraduate days, I had a friend who drove a 1967 Mustang. It was kinda beat up on the outside, but he had a fast engine under the hood. That car was pretty fast anyway, but whenever he could afford it, my friend would go buy airplane fuel for the car. That made it go a bit faster. :-) … David Lorenzo is a business blogger and one of those smart cats who work at Gallup. He’s paid his dues in the hospitality industry and he’s also paid attention to what’s worked for his, and others’, career success.
Read more, about Career Intensity: Business Strategy for Workplace Warriors and Entrepreneurs by David Lorenzo

From Kevin Eikenberry at Kevin’s Blog on Learning, Learning Leadership From the Best

"There are many ways we can learn new things, including leadership. Two of the most widely used are to read about principles and ideas and to learn from an expert. [This book] by Doris Kearns Goodwin, can help you do both at once … What you will get is the opportunity to watch, and learn from the lessons of one of the best – and you will have the opportunity to make those lessons your own through reflection and thought.
Read more, about Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln by Doris Kearns Goodwin

From Steve Sherlock at Steve’s 2 Cents, The One Thing You Need To Know

"Knowing my strengths, I tried to position myself where they would be most useful. This worked out pretty well. The only hard part was in the bi-annual review where there was a section for development opportunities, I cringed. If the Buckingham line of thought were truly followed, this section would not be something to worry about. He always wanted you to focus on your strengths and in so doing make your weaknesses insignificant.
Read more, about The One Thing You Need To Know … About Great Managing, Great Leading, and Sustained Individual Success by Marcus Buckingham

From James Shewmaker at Cohesive Integrity, Using Your Honor to Influence Others

"If I were asked which book of those books which were published by the Covey Leadership before its merger with the Franklin Quest company was most important towards advanced personal growth and the process of developing Cohesive Integrity, it would be [this one] … I like the style of writing that Blaine Lee uses. His book is very accessible to the reader and he makes it easy for the reader to make immediate applications. This book does not leave you on an esoterical and theoretical plane but rather helps the reader to see how the theory may be made very practical.
Read more, about The Power Principle: Influence With Honor by Blaine Lee

From EM Sky at Mind Unbound, in a post called, I’m Back!!!

"… I want to share with you this book I’m reading: "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferazzi … It’s a book about networking, and if you’re interested in an innovative view on networking that works, then read this book! According to Ferazzi, networking is all about generosity. He takes a society-wide view of the networking phenomenon, focusing on the mutually beneficial relationships that make up the whole. In other words, you might not always be able to help someone who helps you, and vice versa, but that isn’t the point.
Read more, about Never Eat Alone, and other secrets to success, one relationship at a time by Keith Ferrazzi

From Wayne Hurlbert at Blog Business World, Rivers of Revenue: Income ideas start flowing

"The secret to getting your business, your career, and your life back on track is to stop trying to sell to people. Whether it’s ideas, your products and services, or yourself, no one wants to feel like they are getting a sales pitch. Instead, everyone wants you to support them and their buying process. In turn, they will support you.
Read more, about Rivers of Revenue: What to do when the money stops flowing by Kristen Zhivago

From Chris Bailey at Bailey WorkPlay, a Review Of "To Be Of Use" By Dave Smith:

"The book is not only an autobiography of a man dedicated to making this world a better place, but a field guide for all of us to use to connect our work to something greater than ourselves. Dave Smith was the original founder of Smith & Hawken … What I found most refreshing is his take on business and entrepreneurism. His story is an inspiring account of how business can be a force for good in the world and that a successful business can be measured by such ideals as responsibility, compassion, and service to the common good.
Read more, about To Be Of Use, The Seven Seeds of Meaningful Work by Dave Smith

From Hanna Cooper at Making A Difference, Finding our Way:

"Sometimes when I read something, I have the sense that I’ve come home.  The writing is new, fresh, and intriguing, and at the same time familiar and intuitive.  It’s that way for me with Meg Wheatley’s latest book … Wheatley’s premise and examples are grounded in reality, experience and common-sense, not in high-on-a-mountain-top-guru or organizational-development-consultant-speak.
Read more, about Finding Our Way: Leadership for an Uncertain Time by Meg Wheatley

To wrap up for us in a truly magnificent way is this post which gives you suggestions for another thirty books!

From Dick Richards at Come Gather Round, Books That Appeared When I Was Ready For Them

"When the student is ready, the teacher appears” is a Buddhist maxim that is also true of books. Books too can be teachers: “When the student is ready, the book appears.” … What these books have in common is that they have personal meaning to me; that I return to them over and over; that their authors’ experience, background, and study grounded them in the book’s content; and that I believe they possess sufficient depth to facilitate meaningful growth.
Read more.

Now pick out your favorite book, and read.

Our first A Love Affair with Books can be found here, and the Archives for our past Ho‘ohana Community Forums are here.


  1. says

    Rosa, I love the value added portion of this. I am so honored to be a part of this learning community. The learning just goes on and on. So much to read, so much to do…

  2. says

    Mahalo Steve for the generous comments and encouragement you continue to share here!
    When all is said and done, we truly do learn from people: SOMEONE had to write all these books, and SOMEONE had to read them and engage with them for us to benefit this way.
    As for the “so much” … it’s all good! We can choose the “20 that gets us the 80” and it’s even better knowing that the choices in our radar come from a trusted, respected community. We ho’ohana!

  3. says

    Do you Love Books? Check out the 2nd Annual “Love Affair With Books!”

    My good friend Rosa Say recently invited me to partake in the 2nd Annual Love Affair with Books. I submitted my review of Tim Sanders’ Likeability Factor, and I waited to read what others decided to review. I was amazed at all the excellent entries in …

  4. says

    All the links you offer are wonderful yet they pale in comparison to how you link us all together.
    I am very appreciative of your work and it warms my soul to have a touch of Hawaiian warmth come into my office on a cold day in Winnipeg, Canada.

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    20 Book Reviews – The Love Affair with Books

    Our friend Rosa Say has organized an blogging event called 2nd Annual Love Affair with Books which is a effort of gather some great bloggers to review different books – to share their view and knowledge on the books. All the books are related to the b…

  6. Rick Fuqua says

    I would like to thank all of the reviewers and Rosa for putting this together.
    Yet again I have found a few new titles that are must reads, highly influenced by the reviews.
    This is without a doubt the most prolific and focused community imaginable.
    Thanks again for the time-saving reviews.
    PS: As a casual reader, I feel unworthy and incapable of keeping up with the volume of contributions.

  7. says

    Mahalo Rosa for your kind and flattering words! I think it took two days for all of the redness to leave my face.
    Rick – Feeling unworthy is not something that you should feel about anything here. The fact that you are stepping up and making a comment proves that beyond a shadow of a doubt brother!
    Well folks, I now have a copy of, To Be Of Use, the book that Chris reviewed. I tore through 51 pages this morning. Great stuff Chris!

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    Reading List Selections

    I was writing about books, and reading lists and working out which books are worth the money and which ones definitely arent yesterday – and I wanted to share a special resource with you, if you havent already found it.

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    A Love Affair with Books; JJL ’07 Comprehensive Index

    35 Books, 24 Reviewers, Countless Learning A BIG mahalo (thank you!) to all who have participated in this year’s A Love Affair with Books, the 3rd annual, and here on Joyful Jubilant Learning for the first time. Well over 300