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Goodreads Review: Under the Tuscan Sun

January 27, 2011 by Rosa Say

I did finish Under the Tuscan Sun!

My goal had been to do so before the week was over :)

Here is the short review I wrote for Goodreads:

Under the Tuscan Sun: At Home in ItalyUnder the Tuscan Sun: At Home in Italy by Frances Mayes

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Before finishing this book, I’d queued up a posting for my blog, Talking Story, about how books can come to you more than just once, and that there is at least a twice: One you decide to buy — what were the reasons? And two, you finally read it completely at the time you were probably supposed to. It’s this divine providence that books seem to have; they just do. Such was the case for me with this book, feeling I’d read it now at the right time, for I’ve had several false starts with it. I’ve loved it for sense of place reasons, for as lyrical and descriptive as her writing is, I’ve no desire to buy more of what Mayes has written; she’s already satisfied me with this one. I skimmed over the recipes she shares, occasionally more interested in whatever short story she offered as recipe preface, and I’m positive I’ll never try them out myself, but still, this book did feed me in another way.

Mayes writes, causing me to find a kindred spirit:

Growing up, I absorbed the Southern obsession with place, and place can seem to be somehow an extension of the self. If I am made of red clay and black river water and white sand and moss, that seems natural to me.

Sense of place is a compelling concept for me (evoking the Hawaiian value of Nānā i ke kumu in Managing with Aloha) and in this book we are witness to how Mayes’ sense of place spans and weaves together her living in the south (mostly Georgia), her working in San Francisco, and this central story, of her connection to Tuscany in Italy. In the beginning, she introduces the story as her chance to a second life of sorts, and isn’t that something we all dream of?

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Books Come to You at Least Twice

January 26, 2011 by Rosa Say

You may have noticed I am reading Under the Tuscan Sun, for quotes have shown up here, and on my tumblr. I can’t wait to take another picture of some good Italian food I’m having with way too much wine, so I can post it on Flickr with another quotation there. I resolve to finish reading it before the week is over, feeling certain that Under the Tuscan Sun has finally come to me for its second time.

You’ve experienced this too, I’m sure. Books can come to you a number of times. The good ones make it to three times or more. “Good ones” are those meant for you. The author was merely obliging, unknowingly and obediently listening to one of your guardian angels as they sat on the author’s shoulder, or whispered in their ear at night when dreams came.

A book’s first time

There’s a tug or calling of some kind first. Perhaps a recommendation, perhaps because an author’s name keeps coming up, a pleasing kind of literary nagging at you, or perhaps the tug was as simple, as right and as impulsive as having the jacket catch your eye when you’re killing time in a bookstore or airport newsstand and have nothing else to read.

Under the Tuscan Sun was already well known to me when I finally bought it at the “just buy it already” pricing of the Costco tables, and because there was no other book there to usurp its place in my shopping cart — I have this rule now that I’ll only buy one book at a time; it’s achievable enough. I used to promise myself I wouldn’t buy any more books until I’d read all the ones I already have, but that was completely unrealistic, and I broke that rule all the time. I now understand that answering a book’s calling and actually reading it are two separate things. Having stacks of books that you haven’t read yet is more than reasonable: It’s the natural way of the literate world, and who am I to buck the system?

Book movies

You have to buy it or borrow it for a book’s first coming to you to be complete. And if you’re wondering, no, I haven’t seen the movie starring Diane Lane, and yes, I’m reading the paperback where her picture is on the cover, looking thin, young, tanned, and “oh, I hate her so much right now.” My unrestrained jealousy keeps me from downloading the movie on iTunes, which I want to do, but won’t in that stubbornness I have about getting this book to come to me its second time first.

Movies about books are supposed to be seen sometime between the book coming to you its second and third time.

A book’s third time

The third time is when you reread that book with a different calling being answered. You have a question in your soul, and although you’ve already read the book, you suspect your answer was there, somewhere within its pages, and you missed it the first time through, because you were reading it for a different reason. Books have repeat delivery systems: that’s just one of the reasons books are such a bargain.

I don’t know if this rule, that you must read the book and then watch the movie, is also in the natural way of the literate world, but it should be. When you think of Under the Tuscan Sun, you should think of Frances Mayes first and Diane Lane second, or you screw up the second time the book comes to you. I’m quite sure that even Diane Lane would agree, for how could the movie possibly be made, and then be done well, if she didn’t read the book first?

I’m getting to the part about a book’s second coming to you, but these asides are important.

A book’s second time

I’ve started, and not finished this book a few times already. I’ve even taken it on plane trips across the Pacific Ocean (which take me at least 5 hours’ worth of perfect-for-reading time) more than once, only to leave it unopened each time in that pocket of my carry-on bag where my Kindle now reigns as Attention King. I’ve even taken it before I had a Kindle. Truth is, I’ve had this book, unread, an awfully long time. I’ve cheated with it, skipping the cooking chapters because I don’t cook unless I have to, and still not finished it.

And of course all of this has nothing to do with the quality of the writing. There was good reason Under the Tuscan Sun sat at #1 on the New York Times Bestseller List for such a long time, and that a movie was made about it. It sits at #11,625 out of the ka-jillions of books Amazon.com sells, last time I checked.

A book’s second time coming to you, is when you’re finally reading it with the certainty that you’ll finish it this time. Absolute certainty.

This is the time you were supposed to be reading it, and your guardian angel (or whatever divine providence you believe in) knew it all along.

With Under the Tuscan Sun, that second time is now for me, because I want to move away from the house we live in, and into a new one. I love my house, always have, but it’s time. That’s all, it’s time, and so I’ve started looking. No new place in mind yet, just a resolve for more wayfinding, and a goal shaping up that we (me, and my family) will spend our next winter holidays somewhere else. Somewhere new.

In my case, Italy has nothing to do with it, though I can see why Frances Mayes and her Ed may eventually be sainted in Tuscany. I’m glad I’ve already been there, though many years ago, so I don’t mix signal with noise, as musically beautiful as that noise might be, for I loved Italy too. And Tuscany, while there. I also don’t feel up for a huge house restoration or the ambitious farming they tackled, having a more mobile and somewhat minimal lifestyle shift in mind. What I do feel, is that pull of shifting your sense of place, open to the possibility you will change, like in her chapter, Turning Italian.

That’s the magic of books, isn’t it. That so many different people can read the exact same words and come away with dozens of answers to scores of different tuggings.

False starts are false for good reason

So in other words, all those false starts you may have had with a book, starting to read it in between its first and second time coming to you, and not finishing it, were perfectly fine in the grand scheme of things.

Isn’t that comforting to know?

Here are snippets from the part I just finished. Marked up with a highlighter, confidently knowing that finding these words are even more testament to this being the right time for my second time” after years in my house, will I really be brave enough to leave it behind?

I’m packing for my flight home from Rome when a stranger calls me from the United States. “What’s the downside?” a voice asks on the telephone. She’s read an article I wrote in a magazine about buying and restoring the house. “I’m sorry to bother you but I don’t have anyone to discuss this with. I want to do something but I don’t know exactly what. I’m a lawyer in Baltimore. My mother died and””

I recognize the impulse. I recognize the desire to surprise your own life. “You must change your life,” as the poet Rilke said. I stack like ingots all I’ve learned in my first years as a part-time resident of another country””

The woman on the other end of the line has somehow, through the university, obtained my number in Italy. “What are you thinking of doing?” I ask this total stranger.

The islands off the coast of Washington, I’ve always loved them. There’s this place for sale, my friends think I’m crazy because it’s all the way across the country. But you go by ferry””

“There’s no downside,” I say firmly.

~ Frances Mayes, Under the Tuscan Sun

What about you? What book is now coming to you its second time?

Do you know why, or do you simply know that this will be when you finish it, and that you’ll figure out why you did later?

On my Best Habit List: Play Tourist

January 22, 2011 by Rosa Say

In keeping with my theme for 2011 as The Year of Better Habits, I am definitely continuing with something I started in earnest during 2010: I’m reaping the joy of playing tourist.

In my dream of all dreams, I’d shed all my earthly possessions but for the essentials I could backpack, convince my family and friends to come with me, and set off to travel the world, living for never-rushed months at a time in as many places as I could. Yep, I really would — and I’m working on being able to do it one day, sooner versus later! I want one of those cool walking sticks which travelers stud with emblems of the trails they have hiked, and I want to take pictures with people who speak a different language, and yet we still understand each other… in our photos we’re always smiling or laughing, and we’re usually hugging.

Meanwhile, I’ve started to do so the practical way close to home, both to appreciate where I am now, and to keep my dream vibrantly alive and within reach: I play tourist.

I don’t have the walking stick yet, but I do have some photos.

Don’t pick the berries

‘ÅŒhelo berries

At least once every two weeks, I get out to see what visitors to Hawai‘i come to see, for there’s so much here, and I want to get my wonder back about it all, and not take it for granted. When I take a trip somewhere new, usually to speak or teach, thanks to Managing with Aloha, I tweak my schedule so I can stay an extra day or two, and play tourist there.

I bet there’s a wealth of attractions nearby to where you live too: Get out and see it. Feel what your visitors feel, when they snap their pictures, and sigh, “Wow, can you imagine what it would be like to actually live here?”

You do. And Nānā i ke kumu: Your sense of place is something to be savored.

Here are some photos I took while at Volcanoes National Park last Sunday, just a bit more than a two-hour drive from my home. I’m still uploading more” you can scroll through the full set on Flickr. A bit of introduction:

When completely opened, Crater Rim Drive is an 11-mile drive which circles the KÄ«lauea summit caldera and craters of Volcanoes National Park, and it leads through both rainforest and desert, with marked scenic stops and short walks on the way. Highlights are the Steam Vents, Jaggar Museum, Halema‘uma‘u Crater, Devastation Trail, KÄ«lauea Iki Crater, and Nāhuku (Thurston Lava Tube).

On this particular day less than a fourth of the drive was open because of the toxic air quality being created by the current eruption, yet I was able to see all of those attractions. You can discover the full character of Hawai‘i Volcanoes National Park by adding another 25 miles roundtrip descending 3,700 feet to the coast, dead-ending at a lava flow crossing the road on its land-creating journey to the sea. There are also 150 miles of trails, still including the 4-mile/400 foot descent of the KÄ«lauea Iki Crater trail, where under-the-surface flows still steam through, but are deep below, and considered safe enough to tread.

Volcanoes is a very special place, and it’s such a shame that so many residents of Hawai‘i have never visited. Those who have, know that once is not enough. You might see it all in that one trip, but you leave knowing you’ll want to return.

Devastation Trail
Devastation Trail

‘ÅŒhi‘a ‘ula ‘ula
‘ÅŒhi‘a ‘ula ‘ula

Raindrop kissed Pūkiawe
Raindrop kissed Pūkiawe

Inside Nāhuku
Inside Nāhuku: Thurston Lava Tube

Sawtooth Blackberry blossoms
Sawtooth Blackberry blossoms

Plume of smoke from Halema‘uma‘u Crater
Plume of smoke from Halema‘uma‘u Crater

The ‘Ae fern gets to work
The ‘Ae fern gets to work

Lava lichen
Lava lichen

Related reading in the Talking Story archives:

  1. Wayfinding to Use Your Best Clues and about Nānā i ke kumu: What it means to “Look to Your Source”
  2. Places, Feelings and Learning. Learning Serenity
  3. Learn about Luana this Weekend: I know you have it in you!
  4. [Driving for] Coffee in Paniolo Country
  5. Weekend Warrior (Mine was a Wiliwili tree)

Wayfinding to Use Your Best Clues

December 31, 2010 by Rosa Say

After much thought, made reasonable and immediately useful with a generous dose of “decide already!” impulsiveness, I’m declaring 2011 The Year of Better Habits. Want to join me?

Here’s the thing: I’m a big fan of goal-setting, I really am. However I’m also a fan of not forcing it, and letting goals simmer some before you declare them goals. In other words, I’m a huge fan of wayfinding, process tweaking, and enjoying the journey.

  • Goal setting — big fan. It’s good stuff when you can ‘begin with the end in mind.’ However it requires you have ample clarity with what that ‘end’ is all about. You have to decide, and you have to choose it, ready to take concrete action.
  • Forcing it — not a fan. When I feel I’m forcing something, my gut level intuition will ask, “What’s your rush?” suspecting that my clarity isn’t clear at all, and I’m trying to put the proverbial cart before the horse.
  • Wayfinding — HUGE fan. Wayfinding is Nānā i ke kumu; it’s “look to the source” and the grounding Sense of Place stuff that will cause you to Ho‘ohanohano; conduct yourself with dignity and distinction along the way. Those are two heavy hitters as far as our Managing with Aloha values go; they merge to help define and brand your Alaka‘i self-leadership.

“How do we tell direction? We use the best clues that we have.”
— Master Navigator Nainoa Thompson
[I’ll add a footnote giving you the full context of this quote.]

From a universal perspective, wayfinding is similar to the Chinese Tao, ‘The Way.’ Here’s a juicy bit from The Spirit of The Chinese Character by Barbara Aria and Russell Eng Gon:

“Originally, tao meant simply ‘a course of action,’ perhaps a military one: The [calligraphy] character combines ‘foot’ or ‘to follow,’ with ‘the leader‘ — a ‘head’ topped with the two plumes that were used in ancient days to signify the rank of general.”

“To Confucius tao became the ‘way’ of moral rectitude— the way we do what we do. It was Lao-tzu who interpreted Tao as the law, or truth of the universe, the oneness from which sprang the ten thousand things, each of which contains within it the law or tao of its own being. In Taoism, to see not only things but the tao of things, is to follow the Tao.”

Tao Calligraphy

So back to 2011 as The Year of Better Habits.

I don’t have the crystal clear clarity of a specific goal in mind (gasp! I really don’t), much less those “ten thousand things” springing from the oneness of the Tao, but I’m pretty clear about my wayfinding m.o. — how I want to go about finding my way. I know of the person I want to be. So my how has to do with the collection of habits I want to keep front and center as I do stuff all the coming year through.

On-purpose, well-chosen habits are generous helpers. With the company of good habits I can trust in the quality of my inputs. Then good begets good; my habits help me determine the quality of my resulting outputs. They’ve become a great success structure.

So if a great goal eludes you for the 2011 focus you’re craving, don’t worry and don’t force it. It’ll come to you in good time. Nānā i ke kumu; look to your source, use the best clues you’ve got, and settle into your sense of place. Start with the Ho‘ohanohano part, and cultivate the good habits which will help you conduct yourself with distinction.

Join me in the wayfinding, and we’ll talk story along the way.
Sound good?

Hau‘oli Makahiki Hou; Happy New Year!

Two views of the Wa‘a ~ the outrigger canoe

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Here’s the footnote I promised:
Wikipedia defines wayfinding this way: “Wayfinding encompasses all of the ways in which people and animals orient themselves in physical space and navigate from place to place… Historically, wayfinding refers to the techniques used by travelers over land and sea to find relatively unmarked and often mislabeled routes.”

It is this ‘historical way’ that wayfinding has been most meaningful to me, and I immediately think of Nainoa Thompson who wrote the foreword for me in Managing with Aloha, and the wayfinding of his Polynesian Voyaging Society: Before the invention of the compass, sextant and clocks, or more recently, the satellite-dependant Global Positioning System (GPS), Polynesians navigated open ocean voyages without instruments, through careful observation of natural signs. As Nainoa explains,

“The star compass is the basic mental construct for navigation. We have Hawaiian names for the houses of the stars-the places where they come out of the ocean and go back into the ocean. If you can identify the stars, and if you have memorized where they come up and go down, you can find your direction. The star compass is also used to read the flight path of birds and the direction of waves. It does everything. It is a mental construct to help you memorize what you need to know to navigate.”

“How do we tell direction? We use the best clues that we have. We use the sun when it is low on the horizon. Mau has names for how wide and for the different colors of the sun path on the water. When the sun is low, the path is tight; when the sun is high it gets wider and wider. When the sun gets too high you cannot tell where it has risen. You have to use other clues.”

“Sunrise is the most important part of the day. At sunrise you start to look at the shape of the ocean-the character of the sea. You memorize where the wind is coming from. The wind generates the swells. You determine the direction of the swells, and when the sun gets too high, you steer by them. And then at sunset we repeat the observations. The sun goes down-you look at the shape of the waves. Did the wind change? Did the swell pattern change? At night we use the stars. We use about 220 stars by name-having memorized where they come up, where they go down.”
— Nainoa Thompson

You can read more here: Modern Wayfinding by Nainoa Thompson for the Polynesian Voyaging Society

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