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Work World Myth #8: Managers should know how to do everything.

April 21, 2005 by Rosa Say

This is one of those old fallacies about what it takes to be a “good manager.” You often hear it voiced something like this: “Don’t ask an employee to do anything you can’t do yourself.”

There is so much evidence surrounding this to the contrary, that it astounds me this myth is still around. Even worse, mediocre managers are hiding behind it. They are not working ON business health, innovation, and vibrancy because they are “safely” ensconced IN business tasks that should be delegated and assigned to someone else.

If you want to be needed, be needed as a productivity maximizer: an inspiration, visionary, and compelling leader, not as another worker bee. And please, I mean no disrespect whatsoever to the worker bees you manage and lead; I’m just asking you to better understand what your own role is if you are their manager and a leader.

The strongholds for this good buddy manager myth are more apparent in the supervisory positions that are closest to line staff, however there are hold-outs higher up the food chain that still don’t get it:

If you are supposed to know how to do all the tasks your staff does, and you are supposed to occasionally do them yourself to prove you can, and to prove you understand and empathize with those who do them more often, you are not focused on being the manager or a leader that same group of employees would prefer you to be. You are not working on improving productivity in the smarter way — optimizing strengths to maximize capacity, learning, growth, and market responsiveness.

Recently I’ve shared a story with you about the Alaka‘i Nalu. Since they are fresh in mind, let’s use them, and my manager’s relationship with them as an example.

—There are six different seat positions in a traditional Hawaiian outrigger canoe: we’d refer to them with names such as
1–Stroker and Pacesetter,
2–Partner 1/Communicator 6,
3–Powerhouse,
4–Guardian of the Ama (the outrigger),
5–Extra Eyes/Bailer, and
6–Steersman and Captain.

After a full year of paddling with the Alaka‘i Nalu I was still barely proficient as a Stroker and Pacesetter, and pretty much hopeless in the other 5 seats. Yet I knew exceptionally well how to manage all six seats, and which Alaka‘i Nalu to assign in which seat when the strength of one over another was needed in light of our customer profile for any given day or season.

—I could not run, repair, handle or maintain the waverunner we needed for rescues, and never could I participate in an ocean rescue without needing to be rescued myself, yet I knew how to empower every other Alaka‘i Nalu how to do so, and I could proactively mobilize whatever resources they needed in training, certification, and DLNR permitting to make sure that we were ever-ready for any rescue necessary.

Those are just two examples, but they should help you think about this more in your own management arena…

—At one time I managed massage therapists, but I couldn’t give a customer a deep tissue massage or do Hawaiian Lomi Lomi if one of them happened to call in sick.
—At one time I managed landscape artists, however I still can’t figure out when to compost instead of fertilize, and how to prune versus butcher.
—I know what graphics should be improved on my websites, and how they drive traffic and improve user-ability, however I’ll probably always need to employ someone else to actually produce them for me.
—I could sell and distribute my own books to bookstores and other retailers (for who knows the ‘product’ better than I?), but if I do that I won’t be coaching and mentoring the managers who have a burning desire in managing with aloha to make it happen.

Managers aren’t supposed to know how to do everything that is done by those they manage —— take that pressure off yourself. Managers are supposed to know the right things to best empower their staff to be the stars they should be; i.e. their strengths and their values, and employing them synergistically.

If you feel your staff thinks differently, that you have to roll up your sleeves and jump into their fray, my guess is that you have to lay your cards on the table and talk it over with them (or it’s a cry for a different kind of help, not yours personally).

Explain to your staff what you can do instead of what they are doing, so that your separate efforts complement each other, and you are working collaboratively, not repetitiously. Ask them for their suggestions on where your [different] efforts can be on their behalf. Ask for their input on how you can make processes better for them, not simply participate in those processes, perpetuating auto-pilot and duplicate effort.

See here’s the other part of this: You don’t have to have all the answers that will produce better results either. However you are responsible for finding and using them.

Catching up?

I’ve been adding to my Work World Myths writing here on Talking Story pretty randomly as subjects have come up. So as I wrote this and wondered just how many myths we’ve collected I made this list for easy future reference (especially since I didn’t exactly write them this way initially :-)

Work World Myth #1 says: “What you do at work defines who you are.”

Work World Myth #2 shared: A dozen myths about Reading.

Work World Myth #3 claims that: “New inspiration won’t come from old business models.”

Work World Myth #4 really drives me crazy ” “If you are young, you have to pay some dues before you’ll be taken seriously.”
Sort of wrote about this one twice because the Catch-22 of Experience kept coming up.

Work World Myth #5 is about Theory X – so damaging: “The problem always starts with people: they need to be ‘fixed’ first.”

Work World Myth #6 reveals how out-dated our notions of community are: “We compete. Our information is proprietary. Therefore, we cannot network within the same community circles.”

Work World Myth #7 says: “Employees largely have an entitlement mentality in business today.”

Get to all the links via the tag index: Myths.

As so often happens on Talking Story the comments you share prove time and time again that “All of us are smarter than one of us” and that’s no myth – so be sure to read the comments too if debunking any of these myths interest you.

True or False for your workplace?

April 2, 2005 by Rosa Say

This was today’s gem from the Page-A-Day Perpetual Calendar that has survived all the others on my desk over the years:

Calendar 365 Ways To Manage Better by Bob Nelson

April 2:    Employees don’t want handouts, they hate favoritism and they are uncomfortable with entitlements. They want to be acknowledged for doing what they signed up to do.

True or False where you work?

The Reinvention of the Business Community

March 26, 2005 by Rosa Say

When I look back at this past week, I am filled with a sense of wonder.

Barely three months ago, we started the New Year with a Ho‘ohana theme of community: do you remember? In part, this is what I’d written on January 3rd:

“Here at Talking Story, you’ll likely find I am eager to embrace new chapters: watch for the new to make itself known in the months to come. And expect that I will ask you to participate: I believe in embracing Ka la hiki ola as the community we have become.”

Back then, I wrote that on a feeling, an intuition that was unspecific yet very strong. I felt very confident writing those words even though I had no idea what the New Year would bring.

This past week, as our Ho‘ohana Online Community gave their mālama — their caring for, their stewardship — to Talking Story, I kept going back and reading about community again. This morning my own thoughts keep coming back to this: Perhaps it is in the evolution of the business community that we will achieve our greatest reinvention in the shortest amount of time.

It used to be, that business people competed with each other. They may have been friendly, but they didn’t network and pool resources.

It used to be, that business people trained and groomed their own. They didn’t mentor others outside the fold and openly share “proprietary” knowledge.

It used to be, that work was work and work was left at work. People didn’t write about it, and become citizen publishers calling for work reinvention on their own time.

That was then, this is now, and we’re not going back. We don’t want to.

We are reinventing competition by competing with ourselves first and foremost. We stretch and grow to make ourselves new, and what we compete against are our former selves.

We are reinventing assets and currency, by adding priceless intangibles that cannot be assessed dollar amounts; intangibles such intellectual currency, emotional engagement, permission and attention.

We are reinventing our very attitudes about work, banishing the 9-5 attitudes and entitlement mentality that can sink promising human enterprise. We are creating business partners within our own companies, and in global neighborhoods.

We are reinventing what it means to “get involved.” Community members challenge mediocrity, yet positively propose solutions and freely exchange ideas — whining, complaining and commiserating are not tolerated.

We are reinventing benchmarking and networking, by creating global relationships that cross industries and cultures. If you have an internet connection you are invited to participate. The choice is yours; there is no old boy’s network making the decision.

More from January’s Ho‘ohana:

“Talking Story was born to be the discussion pages of Say Leadership Coaching, the company I started and dedicated to the ho‘ohana (passionate, intention-filled work) of those who manage, and the people they work with.

My hope was that it would evolve to be the collective voice of an entire community, and thus Ho‘ohana Community is the name that came to be for you, those who read these pages and choose to talk story with us, sharing our mana‘o (deeply held thoughts and beliefs) as an ‘Ohana in Business, a community of like-minded people.

What does “like-minded” mean for us? It means we are intent upon managing our work, ourselves, and our lives with aloha.”

Well this past week there was certainly an abundance of aloha.

It was only this past January that I invited a dozen other bloggers to begin the Ho‘ohana Online Community with me, and this past week’s forum of collective thought on reinvention is testimony to the incredible power that community can have. These generous Mea Ho‘okipa were so eager to add their voices to mine and they did so with such eloquence because you, dear readers, inspire us: You are our community of possibility, hope, and promise. My guest bloggers this week have relished the role of fire-starter: now the reinvention of business that is possible is up to you.

In the past week there were over 620 brand new, first-time readers visiting Talking Story for our forum on Reinvention (the total visitor count was much more): imagine the possibilities if every one simply started the business reinvention movement with their own circle of influence. You had some great inspiration this week, for Lisa, Yvonne, Anita, Chris, Todd and Wayne did way more than I asked them to do for me. Did you catch all of these related articles?

At The Alchemy of Soulful Work:
We’re all responsible for reinvention.

At Blog Business World:
Blogging series as traffic builders.

At Business Thoughts:
Reinvention … buzzword for laziness.

At Lip-Sticking:
Five Phantasmagoric Facts on the Women’s Market.

At Management Craft:
Spreading My Tentacles!

At Small Business Trends:
Reinventing a Business.

I encourage you to lead as these business leaders have done. Make the decision to be a catalyst today: don’t leave it for “the other guy” —Reinvention is something you can make happen. Get inspired. Be proactive and be optimistic. We are.

“When I reflect on the past few months, I see many indicators which lead me to fervently believe that this new time is indeed a time for our community, one that has come together invested in the core values of Ho‘ohana and Aloha.

I believe that 2005 will be about championing a much-needed reinvention of work, and this is task for a community: no matter their passion, mavericks and revolutionaries cannot do it alone. What we need to achieve is too far-reaching: our workforce is dwindling and aging, while simultaneously our needs for a dynamic, vibrant workforce are growing. In addition, we are more sophisticated than we ever have been before; people everywhere are looking for fulfillment and a deeper sense of satisfaction. We want meaningful, significant, legacy-building work for ourselves, and for all those we care about.

So what are the answers? I don’t have them all, but I do believe that Managing with Aloha is a work philosophy that can help us find them.

What am I proposing? That we find our answers as a strong and vibrant community of collective thought and inclusive learning.

We can be a community brave enough to challenge each other, and tenacious enough to draw out the best in each individual, empowering them.

We can be a community which is forthright and honest, yet kind and respectful, professional and self-governing in our respect for each other’s spirit and dignity.

We can be a community which is inquisitive, intuitive, innovative, and resilient, seeking the knowledge – and reaffirming camaraderie – that will propel us forward. We can leap toward initiative and enlarge our capacity.

We can be a community of aloha, freely sharing our spirit with each other, secure in the unconditional support we are certain we will receive. We can relish the abundance found in our connectivity.

Talking Story is here to be our forum, and it is my fervent wish that you will participate.”

That wish has not changed for me: however it has gotten stronger.

My mahalo and aloha to those of you who did visit, who read the collective wisdom shared by our guest bloggers, and who shared a comment of your own. We reinvent the very concept of a business community together, kākou. I applaud your initiative, and we all celebrate your participation.

Tag: Reinvention. Community.

Working within your circle of influence.

March 13, 2005 by Rosa Say

Earlier today Dave asked me a question within the comments of my Don’t let Reinvention intimidate you post. I started to answer Dave there, but this is too important, and I’d like to share it with all of you who may be reading.

This was Dave’s comment:

Aloha Rosa,

I have this friend, lets call him Bob. Bob works for a national company that has around one-hundred locations throughout the USA. At his location, Bob answers to a general manager. On more than one occasion this gm has clenched his fists, scrunched his face and declared to no one in particular (but making sure plenty are around)…how much he hates change.

The gm answers to a regional vp who answers to two or three more people before getting to the president. This lap-dog crowd dances to the hypnotic hysteria of Wall Street flute players. Consequently the gm is in heaven, for the corporate lap-dogs have taken their eye off the ball and blindly stare at the scoreboard in centerfield – the one that pulsates their name in harmony with the flute players from Mars.

Oh, the corporate lap-dogs realize change is necessary. So they fiddle with the corporate logo or they change a national vendor or they suddlenly get the desire to become warm, fuzzy and ethical – right about the time the Sarbanes-Oxley train pulls into town. This means nothing to Bob. Bob knows change must come at the company’s point of delivery – where customer meets employee.

Maybe Bob has chosen the wrong job. Problem is, while most of his industry doesn’t have to answer to Wall Street, they still refuse (or do not possess the competency) to address the true point of delivery.

So Bob can have it all going. He knows his strengths, he always tries to do the right thing and he is connected with his personal values. Heck, Bob even told me something must be wrong with him – because that is what the gurus tell him. They say when one believes the problem lies outside of their selves, it is best to introspect because the problem must really lie within.

Actually, I have directed Bob towards The 8th Habit, because I believe it addresses this very problem. Problem is Bob says a lot of these authors live in a fairy tale world. They are not out there living the agonizing career life that he is.

I don’t know Rosa. What about Bob?

Aloha Dave,

Just from what you’ve written here, I don’t think that Bob can truly “have it all going.” The biggest clue is that he’s frustrated and not happy.

-“He knows his strengths” — does he work within them, every single day, to produce something he feels is worthwhile? There’s some truth to that “ignorance is bliss” adage, for the worse kind of frustration is when you know what your strengths are, but you also realize (or feel in your gut) that you aren’t using them, or you are using them, but not for the right purpose.

-“He always tries to do the right thing” — trying is not necessarily doing, is it.

-“He is connected with his personal values” — and are those personal values in alignment with those of the company? That’s the critical connection, and it does sound like that’s what’s missing.

This sentence you wrote concerns me for Bob’s sake:

“Bob even told me something must be wrong with him – because that is what the gurus tell him. They say when one believes the problem lies outside of their selves, it is best to introspect because the problem must really lie within.”

I hope he stops listening to those “gurus” whoever they are, because that goes back to the old (and spirit-damaging) X Theory that people are basically the problem and need to be fixed. On the contrary, I believe that Bob is the solution, and that he has what it takes.

Like Bob, I don’t care for authors or gurus who present solutions that are not in the context of the “real world.” However there are universal, historically-proven principles (like values, and I believe, the Gallup strengths management revolution) that don’t change, and yet we keep fighting them.

The gurus, authors, mentors and coaches that have helped me personally in my own struggles as a manager, are those who got me to change my own thinking — they were catalysts, but ultimately the answer I was looking for came from me, and were based in my own experiences. That is always my goal in my coaching, and why I ask people to please not introduce me as a consultant: I don’t work with you to give you an answer, otherwise you’ll need me around forever. My goal is to help you grow in your own, very self-enabling, intuitively correct thinking: I coach managers to get better at finding their own answers, and then being brave enough to take action on them.

I have not read The 8th Habit yet, and you need to clue me into why you feel this is a possible answer for Bob. However another Coveyism comes to mind for me: Covey talks about the “circle of influence” we all have, and that’s a concept that helps me put things in context for the managers I coach who are like Bob. It’s hard to effect change on things that are outside our circle of influence. However when we work within it first, and we are able to effect good change there, we achieve a momentum that helps us enlarge our circle. Said another way, the circle grows with our own capacity for handling more.

In my Hawaiian values jargon — it’s frustrating, hard, and unrealistic to expect you can effect change (or any reinvention) that’s simply not your Kuleana – yet. The size and “location” of your circle of influence is determined by your Ho‘ohana.

I’ve found that this circle of influence has been a helpful way for many managers to determine if they are in the right job or not, because it is possible in the short term, to be in the right circle of influence for you in the wrong company: Your strengths are used, and your values are not compromised because you are effective. You aren’t on Wall Street, but you are at that customer point of delivery, and the customer is the real boss. We see this happen all the time: that a certain store or department location does things right while they are under the radar, and then suddenly corporate office sits up and takes notice because profits are flowing. That’s what business is supposed to do; make a profit.

On a much smaller scale, think of a waitress in a neighborhood restaurant who works there because she knows the food is good and priced well. She loves her customers, serves them well and thoroughly enjoys doing so. Now her restaurant is actually part of a much larger, national chain, but as far as she’s concerned, that well priced, good food is coming from that one kitchen and nowhere else. She loves the people she works with, and she feels they are all working together to make the restaurant both successful and a good place to work. She is thriving in her circle of influence.

When you are effective you feel you are challenged and growing to meet that challenge. As your circle grows — and if you have been effective within it, it will — you will be able to effect the reinvention you want to tackle that was previously outside the circle. If not, that’s when it’s time to move on. And it’s a move that won’t be that difficult, because the reason that old circle got too confining for you is that you outgrew it. You now have quality experiences and hence have created a proven track record all prospective employers will look for.

Growing your circle of influence does not necessarily equate to taking a promotion or getting into management: it means developing your own strengths from grade a usage, to grade b usage, then grade c usage, and so forth. Let’s go back to that waitress:

She is Mea Ho‘okipa, and her key strengths are that she is a Relator and an Achiever. Her customers come back repeatedly and she can handle a good many of them at the same time (the restaurant is full, and makes money) and they tip her well (and so does she). The worse possible thing that can happen here is that she gets promoted to floor supervisor and stops serving them directly.

If this sounds as simple as “right place, right time,” it is. The hard part is always coming to terms with what you perceive is “right,” and that brings us back to values.

God forbid that I become one of those authors living “in a fairy tale world” so please continue to challenge me if you feel I’ve somehow missed the boat on this. I know many heads were nodding out there in reading your story, and the very reason I have chosen coaching is because it is largely a one-on-one practice, where I can help guide a manager through his or her own minefield until they feel confident enough to do it without me. My last word of encouragement to you Dave, would be to continue coaching Bob if you feel you can and you want to: sounds like he may already have chosen you, for he’s trusted you with the sincerity and truth of what he faces.

Does Bob like to read? Until I can write my own one day :-) there is another book I can recommend to managers and leaders who might want to consider how coaching works, but want to test the waters themselves first in a more affordable way. It’s called Your Coach [In a Book] and it was written by Robert Hargrove, the author of Masterful Coaching, and Michael Renaud. I found it was very insightful and helpful, and it employs story after story about those real-world decisions, bothersome issues, and dilemmas managers and leaders face.

Coaching FAQ is here.
MWA Book Excerpt on Ho‘ohana.

Mahalo nui Dave for posing the questions for us to talk story on.

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