Life Imitates Art

“Life imitates art far more than art imitates life.”

— Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

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Aloha everyone, how are you?

Tomorrow morning I will be back with a posting at my Say “Alaka‘i” blog for The Honolulu Advertiser. However I had promised that my first update when back online would be here at Talking Story, and so here we go”

As is the wisdom of divine providence (love how this can occur!) today also happens to be the 25th of the month, and the day is quite a strong trigger for me by now ”“ I willingly and joyfully succumb to the habit of Rapid Fire Learning, that stream-of-consciousness exercise in which we reflect on the last month and consider a list of five things we have learned. So how about if to start, I update you in that way? My vacation had officially begun with my last posting on April 30th. Here is my Rapid Fire Learning from May 1st through today:

  1. My biggest learning in May was that more offline time is essential if I am to make progress on my mission-critical projects. I love my online communities, but they can too easily consume all my attentions (versus directed attention at the right time).
  2. Second, letting go while away is so much easier when you have a great team to support you, such as the team I have within the JJL Advisory Board ”“ and remember, they are unpaid, all volunteers driven by their commitment to the value of learning. Self-leadership shines magnificently.
  3. My vacation was nearly a month long, and for the first time I included my email in my “I’m completely away” messages to disconnect as much as possible. It was extremely revealing to learn the full extent to which email had begun to rule my days (and it wasn’t good), and I am committed to re-learning to use email with new self-imposed rules.
  4. “Less is more” is absolutely, positively true, and a Stop Doing list trumps a To Do list for me ”“ big time. In addition, dwelling in that place enables me to give to others so much more.
  5. Making room for projects and pilots is not more work for me; it is deliberate intention on the RIGHT work. Experimentation is crucial within my own Ho‘ohana and project work is very useful to me in that it fuels my creative process. Stay tuned!

I want to prove Oscar Wilde right

Hc_badge100x50By all means, it is time to have my life imitate my art (An ‘Imi ola concept to be sure ”“ create your best possible life!) Here are the practical, tangible updates for our Ho‘ohana Community.

My pleasure travel is over (and the family time and festivities surrounding commencement were truly wonderful!) and Job One for me now is bringing Say Leadership Coaching, Ho‘ohana Publishing, and Writing with Aloha out of hiatus and back to good working order. I freely admit to you I have allowed my businesses to languish a bit so that I could take this time completely off AND reinvent them, and so there is quite a lot involved in that statement to bring them “back to good working order.”

In addition, there are two projects that I have committed myself to completing as soon as possible, and I will share more about them as progress develops. I chose the Oscar Wilde quote as a good mantra for me to keep in affirmative focus, for I deeply wish to have my life imitate the art I set about creating, and my projects are my way to do that.

You will see me reenter the world of our online communities, but slowly and with very deliberate choices, and in a manner that is much more tempered and reserved. At times I may appear selfish: As hard as it will likely be for me, I am resolving to say “No” to the online candy store much more than I say yes. These are my current plans:

  • Talking Story remains blog-central for me, and I look forward to conversing here with you here again. This is my home base and will remain that way, and posting will be done when I have something to say and share with you as it happens, versus of a creative new blog-specific theme or direction.
  • You will see me reengage with our Joyful Jubilant Learning (JJL) community as soon as Rapid Fire Learning posts there as well. I am looking forward to Rick Hamrick’s first time as our Mea Ho‘okipa (RFL host this month).
  • Learning is a personal value I find impossible to turn off (‘Ike loa is the Hawaiian value of learning). However other than our current theme at JJL I am going to say “No” to all new inputs so I can channel my learner’s energies into my own two projects instead.
  • I will resume my twice-weekly writing for Say “Alaka‘i” because I feel doing so is highly conducive to the flow of one of my projects, the writing of my second book. During my May vacation I completely revamped my outline and am quite excited about the writing I have invested into my current manuscript ”“ I am confident you will be too once I get it published, and I want to work on making that happen as soon as possible.
  • One of the things I consciously am saying “No” to (and those who know me well will gasp at this) is all my reading, for it is too distracting when I am writing a manuscript of my own. I will not be reading or reviewing books until my manuscript is complete, and I will also be staying away from my blog reader, trusting that the bloggers of our Ho‘ohana Community will understand.
  • I will greatly curtail my conversations on Twitter. I know this will not be easy, for I do enjoy the banter of our friendships there and normally feel reciprocation is important, but I realize this restriction is very necessary: My habits-by-design will change to more update broadcasting when I have value to share, but less ‘listening’ to where a trend or link from others will send me down some rabbit trail. If I am unsuccessful at achieving this shift and Twitter proves to be too great a distraction I will stay away completely until my chosen projects are done and my businesses are thriving again.
  • For now, I am keeping my MWA Group on LinkedIn on hiatus. We were just getting started there, and I think it will be much wiser to restart at a better time. As I said above with my May RFLs, “Less is more.” However this group is connected to one of my current projects, and while shelved for now, it will not be forgotten or dissolved.

In my current resolve I write this post more for me than for you. You are important to me, and it is fabulous that I can update you on my intentions as well, but this is more about putting my Ho‘ohana in writing so that I MUST honor my own word and make good on it. I feel the best I can do for you is to lead by merit of my own best example. We know that as Alaka‘i, and as self-managing with our Aloha.

Thank you so very much for all the support you continue to give me. Though in a newly calm and quieter way, or more accurately, because of that ma‘alahi persuasion for calm, it’s good to be back.

We Ho‘ohana together, and I am so grateful that we do,

Rosa

By the way” If you would like to see them, my vacation pictures are posted on Flickr. Here is a shot of the Monument Creek Vista at the Grand Canyon:

Monument Creek Vista