Has May’s Ho‘ohana been good for you?

We’ve been ho‘omau-ing, and I do hope so!

We’d started here on May 1st: Ho‘omau and Be Strong … remember?

Check in with the Managing with Aloha blog for our 2-days from pau (finished) / 2-days to go recap:

3 Ho‘omau Siblings: Will, WillPower, and Willingness

Also there, are keep-the-fire-burning links to Ho‘omau articles you may have missed by Reg Adkins, Dean Boyer, Carolyn Manning and Joanna Young of our Ho‘ohana Community — and they are not to be missed!

The MWA Values Index on Ho‘omau has been updated with my picks too.

Ho‘omau-ing is so much better than Should-ing, dontcha think?

Mahalo nui to all who have commented on our Ho‘ohana this month! You keep our community strong.

[If you are new to Talking Story, click on the fire to learn more about Ho‘ohana and the Ho‘ohana Community.]

Observations on Audio Pilot

Driving again today, this time about 90 minutes each way.

(Yep, there can be a lot of driving on this island … off-the-subject trivia: Did you know that the Big Island of Hawaii could carry all the other Hawaiian islands in the chain atop it, and still have room to spare?)

I’m listening to an audio book via the car’s CD player, and as is my normal preference, it’s non-fiction and about business. It’s early in the morning, my prime time, and I’ve already downed a super-sized cafe latte, so before long I’m in the mood to debate the author, but of course it would be for naught – he wouldn’t hear me, and so where’d the fun be in that?

Then he says something pretty darn good. So good in fact, that I pull to the side of the road for a moment, fish around in my bag for my moleskine and a pen, and pause the CD so I can write something down that he’d caused me to think about.

What had just happened? I went from wanting to debate the guy to needing to capture his gems of wisdom in just a few nano-seconds.

It strikes me that in a way, listening to an audio book trains you to listen better. There’s no pressure that you’ll soon need to carry on your half of a conversation, so you just listen. You focus and just drink in the words. AND, when those yeah-buts might come into your head you’d best quiet them quickly and stop resisting, or you’ll miss the next thing coming – because unless you hit pause, the author is going to keep talking.

There’s something else that can happen too… you can do what I did…

When something pops into your head, you can pause the audio program, and write it down. Do that, and the something else that can happen is kinda cool… Chances are that when you un-pause and keep listening, the author has explained more or talked it out more, and BINGO! evolution and shift happens with the new input.

You think beyond where you originally had, or you think differently. Your own idea evolves.

Far as NLP-type programming goes (visual, auditory, kinesthetic etc.) I’ve always known my learning styles to be visual first, kinesthetic, and auditory last. But it can be pretty amazing how much more I have to learn about these audio tendencies that are supposedly last … could it be that’s where the biggest breakthroughs are possible?

A related posting; My Aha! Moment in Auditory Learning


Obviously not me driving this morning (no CD player :) but I thought it was a great picture!

Are you wondering who I was listening to? Let’s see how good you are at guessing …

  • He’s very well known in business blog land, particularly about marketing
  • He calls himself an "agent of change"
  • He’s written a bunch of books, the latest about a 3-letter word, promising to help you "beat mediocrity" (haven’t read it yet)
  • He’s bald, and likes to have you click on his head at his website to get to his blog

Okay, that was too easy … but which book? One of his oldest ones, and one of my favorites: I listen to this CD once a year or so. See if you can guess before you click!

Book an Author and Make Their Day

I had a magnificent day yesterday.

I met Skip and Caroline Andrews of our Ho’ohana Community for the first time. They live on the mainland, and were here for a week, and Skip had sent me an email asking if the timing would be good for us to meet. They would be on the east side of the island (I live on the west side).

The short version of our day is this: We did meet, and we spent most of the day together. Conversation in a coffee place, then lunch, then shopping along Mamo Street and Kamehameha Avenue downtown, then a tour of a remote mountainside retreat that overlooks Hilo Bay. A beautiful, sunny day in normally-rainy Hilo became soul-warming sunshine in my life.

Skip bought my book, Managing with Aloha, while here in Hawaii two years ago. When he took the initiative to email me, and triggered off the correspondence between us that eventually led to yesterday, he started a relationship with me where I didn’t even think twice about the fact that making it happen would require one of my rare Saturdays at home and about four hours of driving alone. In fact, it gave me another reason to stock up my iPod with a new audio book and pack a bag for a roadtrip.

This has happened to me before, and no matter how many times it continues to happen it will amaze and delight me. By ‘this’ I mean having the immense good fortune to meet someone who has read and enjoyed my book, studying it enough to feel it somehow speaks to them. It is an experience which is a profoundly moving gift.

I have been a book addict for as long as I can remember. I have fallen in love with certain authors, often thinking about the thrill it would be to meet them. Yet somehow my thinking about this has never been big enough, bold enough, or of-course-you-can! enough.

I’ve never been the one to send the email.

The closest I’ve come has been approaching authors after they’ve spoken at a conference I was at. That was how I’d met Marcus Buckingham and Tim Sanders, two of my favorite business authors. However that was too easy; and a case where easy just wasn’t good enough. I didn’t work hard enough at it to be satisfied by it, and I certainly didn’t expect them to remember me … I was one of many queued up to speak with them.

And I certainly never dreamed that the day would come, that I’d be author someone else would think about meeting.

Managing with Aloha has changed so much for me, and I couldn’t be happier. If I do write another book, it won’t be for the sales, for the acclaim, for the prestige or for the credibility. It will probably still be about an ‘Imi ola mission, like the managing with aloha movement, and it will definitely be for more days like yesterday, sharing aloha with the Ho’ohana Community.

And since writing Managing with Aloha, I do now contact other authors (like Tom Ehrenfeld), wanting to give them these gifts too.

Thank you Skip and Caroline, and thank you to the many others I have met because you were brave enough, open enough, and confident enough. You have all become pure joy for me in being so lokomaika’i, (one with the generosity of good heart.)