You may have noticed that I’ve become a fan of Flickr lately for the great photos to be found there. Finding terrific shots of Hawai‘i is pretty easy; whenever I photo-surf, I count my blessings yet again for the beauty which surrounds me in these islands I call home sweet home.
There is fun and playfulness in the images of Hawai‘i which people capture too:
This one in particular caught my eye, for our value for the month of February, 2007 is Aloha. With February as the month known for friendship and love, Aloha suits it so perfectly.
I am calling this month’s Ho‘ohana Aloha, the celebration of who we are. Everything we will learn this year, everything we will accomplish, every sweet victory and satisfying job well done, will start and end with us, the people of feisty, bountiful spirit that we are.
All the kindness and love we share, all the unconditional acceptance, understanding, and forgiveness we give, will come from our Aloha.
Our ALO – our demeanor and presence shared with those we are with
Our HA – the very breath of our life, and our spirit
Our ALOHA – the authentic, transparent, vulnerable, real us
—The definition of Aloha shared with Rosa by a very wise 17-year old gentleman at Kamehameha School’s Kea‘au campus on the Big Island of Hawai‘i
This is the gift of aloha: At the core, we are good enough, just the way we are.
Do we choose to express it? Or do we allow others to ask us for something that is different?
However, I felt the need for Aloha as our value this month to somewhat temper the unreasonable expectations we can place on ourselves at times, to help us strike more of a balance in being okay with who we already are.
Further, have we fully explored the all of us?
In the past week, I had issued a Rapid Fire Learning challenge for Joyful Jubilant Learning, and I was absolutely thrilled with the results. What people had overwhelmingly learned, didn’t have to do with new technologies or advanced academics even though I tempted these choices with my own first examples. Talk even died down about the “new social media” and virtual communities.
What we mostly learned, was about the consequences of the choices we make with our own behavior. We learned about the values we want to remain true to. We learned about the glory of us;
I like to think outside the box and do things differently than what others have done… but, sometimes the tried and true "rules" have merit. It seems that I am learning a better balance between my "rebel-think-outside-the-box" self and my "stay-inside-the-lines-follow-the-rules" self.
learned about Pono, the value of rightness and balance and how it can bring us contentment.
Time away from work, off-line, with family and friends and occasionally alone, is refreshing, liberating, and renewing.
”“Blaine learned about Mālama, the self-care which nourishes him, and about ‘Ohana, his family.
Learning question I considered: If you know how the story is going to end, do you still do the right thing?
”“Tim learned about ‘Ike loa, and about how knowledge can be instinctive for us, if we ask the right questions.
That all the endless networking I have done over the last 3 years or so of my business may be starting to pay dividends.
”“Chris learned about ‘Ohana, the human circle of Aloha, and about Lōkahi, the harmony and unity of community.
I can be involved in too much. Saying no is the right answer. – I am fortunate that I get many opportunities to do some really GREAT stuff. I often pile more and more on, and do things pretty good. I can do things GREAT…If I’m willing to commit to less things, NOT more.
”“Phil learned about KÅ«lia i ka nu‘u, and how excellence is a result of the right actions being taken.
These are all lessons of our own values.
So with this month’s Ho‘ohana, tell me, how will you celebrate the real, authentic, glorious you? No book, no class, no tutorial will ever have the unique DNA of you and your Aloha. You are more than good enough; you are exquisite and priceless. You are fresh and revitalizing, like the crystal clear waters of an artesian well.
Let’s Ho‘ohana: Let’s explore, and delight in discovering the all of you. The full complement of your Aloha Spirit.
We’re here to share our aloha, as we ho‘ohana together, kākou.
Sometimes, we do need help in seeing the good in ourselves. Sometimes, we can use the aloha of another in understanding what our strengths are, because they miraculously sense them in us before we do, no matter how comfortable we are in our own skins.
I have a new challenge for you in February; if you see strength and goodness in someone else, tell them you do. Describe it to them, and tell them how great they are. Hold up the mirror of your admiration for them, and get them celebrate with us in full acceptance of who they are.
Take another look at that plumeria script of Aloha in the Flickr picture above. Sharing Aloha is just too good to resist.
I refer you to the pages of Managing with Aloha, or to the archives for my “classic Aloha” definitions, and I hope you will take some time to revisit them:
- The Chapter One, Aloha pdf download will be available in the right column of www.managingwithaloha.com until February 28, 2007
- Last February, we spoke of Aloha as The Intent of Great Managers.