Earlier today I reached toward my bookshelf in one of those 5-minute captures where I’m taking a brain-break and need some “wayward” food for thought. I closed my eyes, and ran my fingers along the book spines, settling on one that felt just right, and pulled it out.
When I opened my eyes, in my hands I held Gung Ho! Turn on the People in Any Organization by Ken Blanchard and Sheldon Bowles. On the second page of the Prologue, page viii, I found I had underlined this in my first reading:
“He may simply have been honoring the moment with silence. I had learned over the years that a long silence from Andy was his way of telling me that what I’d said was important. It deserved its own space before being banished by a reply.”
And in my own handwriting beneath it:
This is such a wonderful thought that you can honor someone else with the respect of your silence.
Another way to think about our value of lokomaika‘i this month.
The passage continues:
“We sat together, our hands touching, for several minutes. Andy once told me his mother had taught him not to wait for silence before speaking, but rather, to wait for the silence to end.”
Silence. Respect. Generosity.
They go together nicely.