Dwayne Melancon shares a good observation with us today on Genuine Curiosity that he calls “The accidental commitment.”
“I’ve been involved in a number of situations recently (in fact, I am responsible for creating some of them) in which commitments were made or implied out of politeness. Being polite is a good thing, of course, but politely taking on a commitment you really shouldn’t have made brings trouble.”
I encourage you to read the rest of his post: click in to The accidental commitment.
I’m certain that you’ll have a reaction similar to mine: been there!
Dwayne talks about something many of us do, and what compounds the situation is that we don’t admit to making the mistake as soon as we catch it. Instead, we let it play out the best that we can manage, and the person we made the commitment to is likely to get a mediocre result. We disappoint ourselves in the process too, because we know we are capable of better.
As usual, honesty is the best policy, and the sooner the better. It is so much easier to deal with truthfulness that is out in the open versus those hidden lies of omission.
Great post today Dwayne, mahalo for sharing your thoughts.
5/18 update: Dwayne wrote a good recap on this after his post stimulated some commentary. Be sure you also read his follow-up at It’s always about you isn’t it?