Our Talking Story Recap for May

This month was Leialohalicious!

Our Ho‘ohana for this month was called May Day Gifts of Aloha, and by month’s end our wonderful Ho‘ohana Online Community had carried on our island tradition virtually, giving 21 more leis all over Blogsville. I had forgotten to count the very first one I received from Dwayne, I gave one to Bren as guest author for his Carnival, and Lisa surprised me with another yesterday, so we’re really up to 24 ” and counting I’m sure.

Let’s see”

We learned a new word this month, while participating in another online community: Have you heard of Chautauqua?

We had a very not-normal day, and we all discovered what a wonderful thing that could be.

Toward the middle of the month we got serious and did some in-depth work on strengths management and values, looking at the connections to Maslow’s Pyramid and his theories on our hierarchy of needs.

Then this came up:

“The reality of a strengths and values-based management practice like Managing with Aloha is that it requires you to focus on “higher-level thinking.” Doing that can be very frustrating when there is still too much lower-level “stuff” clogging up those thought channels you want to otherwise direct.”

That, along with some other things (which you’ll hear more about in June) moved me to finally give in and read David Allen’s Getting Things Done. Hook, line, and sinker ”

Along the way we shared a story about employee dignity,
we dug in for more honesty with accidental commitments, and we took a peek into some reinvention work going on in Human Resources, all the more timely since Business Chic is Back!

I had a little rant about people needing to earn their keep, and answered a question about bullies at work and conflict resolution, and then we considered what it takes to be an executive.

Best of all this month we welcomed a new member to our Ho‘ohana Online Community: Dwayne Melancon of Genuine Curiosity. Dwayne has truly made his aloha known in our Ho‘ohana Community in a very short while, and he has such great things to share with us. If you have not seen it yet, his recent Tone at the top article is exceptional, and I really liked this one yesterday: Blogging the light fantastic. Mahalo nui for the learning you share with us Dwayne.

So which Talking Story posts were your favorites during the month of May? Let’s see if your choices matched up to everyone else’s: These were the top five posts this month in number of visits, however only the top two were written this month. The other three are oldies but goodies, still going strong.

Golden opportunities can look pretty dingy at times

This coaching story was about how managers should handle difficult conversations at work, and it seemed to strike a chord with a lot of people. Adrian helped send people this way for it too.

Hey boss, what do you want to know? – Part 1

This was a response I had written for an employee who emailed me about her opportunities to talk story with her boss; she’d asked what to talk about, and I gave her some suggestions.

The Daily Five Minutes.

I couldn’t be happier about this, for I have often said The Daily Five Minutes is the best tool I offer managers in Managing with Aloha. This post is the excerpt from my book. I really wish all blogging platforms had trackbacks, for the ones here are only a sampling of where we’ve been able to stimulate some conversation. 

Work World Myth #8: Managers should know how to do everything.

This April post keeps getting new visitors: even if you’ve seen it before you may want to check back for the new comment conversation there now.

An open letter to bloggers: Talking Story links.

I am so tempted to rewrite this one, at least the beginning of it. John, Dwayne, Jay and Robin kept the conversation going most recently.

As usual, tomorrow we’ll update the Best of Talking Story (this page, scroll down the left column) with how these fell into the top 5 year to date. Think they made the cut?

On June 1st we will have a new Ho‘ohana too; see you then!

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More May Leis – for different reasons

As this Memorial Day holiday comes to a close I’m emailing some of Zach’s graduation pictures to ‘ohana (our family) on other islands. Since we’ve talked about leis so much this month, I thought I’d share a couple of shots with you, so you could see why in Hawaii graduation would be unimaginable without them — at Zach’s school, they’re even more important than cap and gown!


This was Baccalaureate the night prior, and Zach’s wearing a lei made from the puakenikeni which grow in our yard. (This is probably only the 3rd or 4th time in his life Zach has had to wear suit and tie.)

Graduation includes traditional Hawaiian song and dance done by the graduates as their mahalo for all who have taught and supported them. This is the hula by the men: the green vine leis the guys are wearing are called maile: tying the two ends together symbolizes you are complete and whole in spirit. Zach has a second floral lei that was given to all the graduates inducted into Cum Laude Society.


And this shot is after commencement exercises as family and friends greet the graduates on the great lawn outside: Leis are made from flowers, feathers, fabric, candy, and cash!  Soon you can only see their eyes.


The nice thing is that since most graduations here are right before the Memorial Day weekend all the leis are recycled. After the pictures, we put them in bags and refrigerate them, and this morning they were taken for the holiday’s remembrance ceremonies. Trees are bare today: Leis decorate every gravesite in the islands.

Hope you had a good holiday: I hope to see you tomorrow for the Talking Story May Recap.

3 Cheers for the Aloha of 800-CEO-READ!

They are sharing their mālama with ChangeThis and bringing it back from hiatus.

Mālama is the Hawaiian value of caring and stewardship, and from what I personally know of 800-CEO-READ I am confident that they will be a worthy steward.

Todd Sattersten had given me the good news because my Managing with Aloha manifesto has been on hold with ChangeThis during their hiatus. I’ve been waiting for his announcement on the 800-CEO-READ Blog to share with all of you who had so generously voted to move me out of the slush pile there back in January, however this wonderful news is beyond just me.

In my view, ChangeThis was a pioneer of what we now think of as “citizen publishing,” with their goal to help great ideas become viral, infecting internet readers with more passion for embracing the change Seth Godin has said we must embrace as our “new normal.”

In this regard ChangeThis has truly been missed.

From Todd’s announcement this past Thursday:

“We are happy to announce today 800-CEO-READ will be taking on the stewardship of ChangeThis. ChangeThis was a project started with Seth Godin, Amit Gupta, and a team of interns last August. The goal of the project was to create a distribution hub for world changing ideas.  ” We are currently working on the next issue of Changethis which we expect will be published in the next two weeks.”

Read Todd’s complete announcement here.

And get ready: I imagine there will be a slew of new manifestos to hit the slushpile for your votes! Watch for 800-CEO-READ’s first newsletter: besides the Managing with Aloha Manifesto, you are sure to find more great ideas just waiting for you to help make them viral.

Related announcements from Amit Gupta and Seth Godin.

Writer’s Rewards

Those who write, and who share their writing, will at some time experience the reward of reading another person’s take on their words.

I have been blessed to have this happen to me on a couple of occasions, and it is a very rewarding thing. It is rewarding even in those instances when the person who refers to you may not agree, or goes off on a completely different tangent, for in some way, you gave them cause to think. Somehow, in some small way, your words had an effect (hopefully a good one) or made some kind of difference.

Blogging platforms for online publishing have sped up this very rewarding feedback loop. Writers who are blog authors eventually learn to use Technorati, Pubsub, or another watchlist program to find out who may have linked to them, and on those days that your RSS aggregator announces a new link, you discover you may have one of these writer’s rewards waiting for you.


There were two very nourishing morsels waiting for me this morning that I’d like to share with you.

From Management Sin to Life Lesson

Up until this past Monday, The 3 Sins of Management has been the all-time hit leader for Talking Story in number of visitors, with well over a thousand hits at first publication and still counting. I wrote it back on February 10th, and it continually amazes me how often people come back to it, or someone new finds it.

Sidebar: Ironically, for those of you who may study metablogging and blog trending, there are only two trackbacks and zero comments on the post itself, the lesson being that number of comments on your own blog don’t tell the whole story.

This morning, my Pubsub watchlist ‘introduced’ me to EuroRoss Update Central, “Updates from the life of a Canadian MBA student in Deutschland.” He had done a post today saying he got some “powerful food for thought from ‘Talking Story’.”  From one of my management ‘sins’ he took away this connection to one of life’s more profound lessons:

“Those you love and care about will know when you’re not being honest with them, just as you know when someone you love isn’t being honest and true with you. A terrible feeling.

This leads me to this story I recently came across that I totally identify with:


Click in to EuroRoss’s Update Central to read the story.

But there’s more. Those writer’s rewards, such as EuroRoss gave to me, may only be the beginning.

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