Aloha: you get what you first decide to give.

I’m home again, after the launch of Managing with Aloha, and my November book-signings. Thank you so much to those of you who’ve taken the time to come to one of the past two week’s events and see me. It’s been absolutely wonderful meeting people at my book signings and hearing of their own experiences, even more affirmation to this certainty: if you are a manager, you have a profound effect on those you manage. I hear their stories all the time.

And as with any long trip, it’s good to come home. My mahalo to Bobby Command for the write-up of Managing with Aloha in West Hawaii Today this morning, my own local newspaper:

Tips for the Manager
Former Hualalai VP pens book
ALOHA IS THE TOOL

I’m very grateful, for unlike those who suffer gut-wrenching bad reviews at the hands of critics, those I have received from Managing with Aloha have been very favorable. My heart goes out to Joey Tribiani every time I watch those Friends re-runs! And remember that episode where the friends buy up every newspaper in sight before Monica can see what’s been written about her new restaurant?

As someone who loves to write, I will admit that it’s a self-indulgent treat reading how others write about what I may have written or said. Bobby was very creative in his review this morning:

“Johnny Paycheck and Dolly Parton probably had the wrong manager. The employees in the songs, “Take this Job and Shove It,” and “Working 9-to5” never had bosses who managed with aloha.” (I added the link to a past post.)

He also reminded me of several conversations I’ve had lately. In autographing my books thus far, I am writing in the name of someone’s boss much more often than not. The sentence I hear the most from people is “I think my boss could really use this.”

Then yesterday I got an email from a woman wanting to let me know that she’d be back to see me at a December signing to talk story a little more: She’d decided to read Managing with Aloha for herself first, having purchased the book in ample time before needing to wrap it up for her boss as a Christmas gift. Being an avid reader, she read it through once pretty quickly, but she kept stopping to write her thoughts down in a notebook, all the while wishing she had her own copy to write in and highlight for her own reasons.

I’m very anxious to see her again, and learn more about what her “own reasons” are. In my response I encouraged her to please visit with us here, and talk story with the rest of our Ho‘ohana Community too. However from her email I could already tell that aloha is warming her spirit, and she has a new resolve to take the creation of a better relationship with her boss in her own hands. Bravo! Aloha is both the outpouring and receiving of the spirit. To wish for someone else to have the aloha spirit, you normally will find you want to share it and explore it yourself too.

In his article this morning, I love that Bobby picked out these sentences I’d written in the book:

“I realized that aloha was a statement of personal truths for me, my own source to look inward to. When I released it, aloha made my job easier and it made me more effective in delivering the results that were expected of me.”

Book Excerpt: Chapter One on Aloha.

Well, it was also easier—quicker and better—when in turn, aloha was shared with me by my employees: in so many ways it is absolutely true that you get what you first decide to give.


I believe that we all have aloha within us. How close it bubbles to the surface is a choice we individually have to make.